>The problem, Kate, is the example you set.  By living as you do, by your
>quitting smoking and by aspiring to be more than you are, you remind him of
>his failures, whatever they may be.  He can't imagine himself as your equal,
>so he seeks to validate himself by drawing you and others down to his level
>rather than to lift himself up to yours.  By reading between the lines of
>his posts you can gain an insight to some of his problems he has failed to
>master and see the hate he has towards others who have succeeded where he
>has failed.