I have 85,000 miles.  4 cylinder & 5-speed manual.  I take good care of
the car and never had any problems.  Did the maint and a few small
repairs like CV boots, etc.  The radiator fan must have failed an it
overheated rapidly.  I shut it down fast.

The car was fine but I had oil in the radiator. I took it in.  I had
the head rebuilt, new head gaskets, new radiator, radiator fan, changed
the timing belt, hoses and other things. I spent about $2700.

I got the car back and drove it for about two weeks then saw coffee on
the driveway. I checked the radiator and had coffee again.   I took it
back to the mechanic and now he is pushing a rebuilt motor at cost -
$900 and $600 in labor.  He obviously is feeling a little guilty.   The
car is in good shape. Sadly, we did not go down the replace the engine
path first.  He thinks there might be a crack in the block.

Any suggestions?  I doubt any stop leak stuff will help.  I can flush
the radiator but the oil can get back in fast.  I am not sure if the
oil or water is under more pressure.

The oil leak prodicts that swell gaskets will not work.  I spoke to CRC
who make nano technology stop leak products going in via the radiator
but they said if the oil comes into the cooling too fast - their
product will not work.

I loved my Honda but I never had a car have a catastrophic failure like
this.

No dealers have Accord VPNs with 5 speeds and the price went up.  I am
pretty disgusted with Honda.